Pushing You Forward

On an earlier post, I mentioned that a list would be a great idea to get a man who is going to fit you. I want to hit on one thing that should be on your "Needs" list, but should also be on your guys' list too.

You should challenge and be challenged to grow in your relationship with God. I would argue that this is going to be one of the most important items on your list. Here is the problem: the fact that they are Christian just isn't good enough. If I go and find a girl tomorrow that met Jesus today, there is a possibility that she isn't going to challenge me in my walk with God. Now, in that same breath, I could meet a pleasant Christian girl who has been Christian her whole life, and she could have no way of challenging me. So instead of just simply having, "Needs to be a Christian" on your list, you should put, "Needs to be a growing, active Christian that pushes me forward in my walk."

Let's face it, if we find an amazing other (which i think is what we all would like!) and we have a great relationship with them, but loose ground with our relationship with God, everything else is a loss. 

This truly goes back to the list- you gotta make the guy fit the list, not the list fit the guy, because if God isn't the center of the relationship, it is going to be miserable. Instead, there should be a mutual respect in saying, "God, whatever you have for me is best! Though I like this guy, I know you have someone who is a better fit for me out there and I will wait for him.” This could possibly be one of the hardest prayers you have to pray this year but if we zoom out a little and look at the big picture, do you really want a guy that isn't going to encourage your walk with God?

That being said, let's dive into the mind of a guy. Whether a Christian guy admits it or not, he wants you to challenge him, but especially in the area of faith. One of my favorite quotes when it comes to relationships is: "A woman's heart should be so lost in God that a man must seek Him in order to find her." Dang, that is some deep stuff! So you have to be lost in God (which will definitely challenge the guy, if you are showing him up), and he has to be seeking God in such a way that your two worlds collide with God in the center. This will give you a much healthier relationship than one based on you just listening to your heart and leaving God out. 

Now, besides reading the Bible with him, or discussing theological depths of His word, make sure that you two challenge each other in everyday life. By doing this, you will build each other up and if anything, you two will grow in Him, which is ultimately the point of a relationship. (Maybe that is a different way to look at it but why do you think God created women? Just for funsies? I think not...).

Looking to Him for her!

Tommy