After that break (which was much needed), I made the choice to only release one post a week. So every Monday a new one will be out there. Thanks to everyone who reads these! Hope you all still enjoy reading them as much as I enjoy writing them!
For some reason, growing up in my household, I guess I became desensitized to a lot of “bad stuff’ on TV. Thinking it is not a big deal since I am clearly not the one doing the stuff, I really shrugged it off whenever it came on. However, over Christmas break, I began to notice just how much crud is on television and the more I watched, the more I realized there are very few shows or movies that do not include some sort of reference, or straight up views of the naughty naughty.
But it was deeper than just seeing them. I realized that being around that influence makes you begin to think different. For guys, purity is a huge struggle (so be careful even what you joke about to guys). I think a huge piece of this is what we allow into our minds. If I am watching some guy just grab a girl and kiss her, cause apparently he felt like it, it is easy to begin to think that is real life. (Don’t worry; I am not going to try it anytime soon).
The truth is, we are all affected by what we see on the television, what music we listen to, and so on. Stuff gets in our head and it is hard to get out. So we need to be very direct in what we allow into our minds.
But for you ladies out there, I have a bigger challenge for you. Now, to preface this, I don’t want you to think I am letting up the slack on guys at all, cause I am not. I would, however, love for your girls to expect more from guys (this is your boyfriend, guy friends, random stranger). Ephesians 5:3 says, “Not even a hint of sexual immorality”. What does that look like?
I would say this is one of those that is going to seem extreme, because our culture is so not this way, but is huge to any relationship that you want to be centered on respect. Many guys have a tendency to “take what they can get” and girls, oftentimes you allow guys to get away with stuff that they shouldn’t be getting away with.
The guy makes a joke.
He pushes physical boundaries.
He…whatever. Fill in the blank.
The fact is, what would happen if girls demanded guys to respect them? (And this goes both ways). I think we would change. If I knew that I couldn’t be around the girl I liked unless I was bringing my A game purity wise, I would strap up and make sure I was treating her great. But if some girl is like, “Oh, any joke you make is funny. I don’t feel comfortable doing that, but I guess if you want to….” It is going to be mighty hard for the guy to stay pure around and with you.
Finally, girls, the guy should not be making it a struggle for you. If you are in a relationship or you like a guy, whatever you want to call it, and he isn’t showing you respect, demand it or get out. Pursue a guy to whom purity is important because I can guarantee it is going to affect your relationship, marriage, and how he treats other women. It is an important thing and if girls were to demand it, I believe it would become much more important to the guys too.
Remember: Not even a hint,
Tommy
