Tunnel vision is a very easy disease to catch. Like the flew, it spreads like wildfire especially when everyone around you has a bad case of it. Truthfully, tunnel vision isn’t 100% negative, it can help you get to your goals and keep you on the right track. But that is only when we have tunnel vision directed towards the right things in life.
I had a nasty case of the Tunnelvisions. My eyes caught a girl and wouldn’t let go. Before I knew it, I'd lost sight of my other friends for this one girl. Many people would say, “Okay… what’s wrong with that?” And I definitely see your point. That special person in your life should be…well….special!
That being said, I also think that we need to make sure that we stay connected.
I once knew a gal who dated this guy and blew off her other friends cause she was “in love”. A few months later that love must of faded because they broke up. Now, who do you think was there to catch her? The friends she blew off?
No sir-ree!
Take it from another angle- what is a stronger relationship?
1. Only spending time with that special someone?
2. Both having individual friends and mutual friends that you can lean on?
Of course, it is easier said than done. I know many people believe this, but just have trouble putting it into practice. So this is your call. I have a one step system that will guarentee your success. (or your money back!)
You ready?
You sure?
Okay, this is the money maker: Only spend solo time with him (or her) once a week on a date night, otherwise make sure you are inviting other people into your life and accepting invitations into theirs.
I know. You’re welcome. I mean, I didn’t solve world hunger there, but I got pretty darn close with how much brain power that took! My point being, you are the one in control. You get to decide where you will go, at least in this regard.
So choose who you want to be:
That couple.
Or
a healthy couple.
You made your choice? Great!
Then make it happen, and don’t compromise till it does. Yes it may be awkward at first, and yes it may take some work. But aren’t those the things we appreciate and smile at the most?
You gotta make your choice and stick to it.
Hoping you will still be my friend even when you start dating,
(Seriously get out of your tunnel and let’s hang out)
Tommy
