Ring by spring...well at some point

You have decided to take Jesus' advice and become a "fisher of a man", you have let the bait out and now you are ready to reel him in. The only problem is, you guys have been hanging out forever and nothing is really happening. You two go on walks, hang out at the pool table, you have even been rock climbing together (so cute....I think I may die!). Yet you are wondering what's up? He hangs out with you, but never really does anything clear about it. You begin thinking the worst-maybe he is a monk.... :/

Don't worry, unless he likes very long periods of silence in a dark dungeon, he is probably just like any other good guy and doesn't want to jump the gun.

Imagine this scenario with me just for a second- Joe and Sally are walking, let's say towards the sign, he turns to Sally and says, "Hey, it has been great hanging out with you, and the truth is, I like you way more than a brother should like his sister."* Then Sally turns towards him and says, "Well, I really just see you as a friend....nothing more....ever....!" You have to imagine how that feels to the guy. You just tore out his heart, slammed it on the ground, stomped on it a couple of times, and then allowed a small moped to run over it. This is one of guys' greatest fears-REJECTION. 

This is the reason most guys aren't going to jump the gun.


Point Number 2: Be patient- let the guy have his time.

Here's the thing, even if you like the guy, and he is almost positive that you like him, there is most likely a little doubt going on in his mind. This is going to directly impact how much time it takes a guy to bring it up. So, like mentioned in the last post, you need to encourage the guy.


All this being said, you need to go back to the last point: be patient. It may take weeks for the guy to gain the courage to tell you. I know, that sounds sad, but then again, I don't often see you girls going out on a limb like this, so cut him some slack. Just keep doing what you're doing: hanging out with him and giving him a cute smile every once in a while, and when he feels ready, he will bring it up.

Now, if you want to speed the process up a bit, there are certain things that you can do to at least help the guy along. For instance, if your future man knows for sure that you wanna have the DTR (Define the Relationship). This could happen by his good friend letting him know, or some other way of slipping it to him. But once again, don't expect that just because you wanna have the talk, he does. Relationships are all about balance, and so thinking that the guy wants exactly what you want at that very moment probably isn't healthy. Just take your time, and enjoy the ride! It's supposed to be fun anyhow!

As the miracle man says, “Don't rush me sonny. You rush a miracle man , you get rotten miracles.”,
Tommy