Let's Begin...

You have made eye contact with that cutie across the room, and you are sure you are mfeo(made for each other). Ok, maybe that is an exaggeration. You do think he's cute though, and wishing for him to come over and talk to you is all that is going through your mind. As a girl, you know the code: Never be too forward. You are spot on there-great job! But before you go treating yourself to double chocolate ice cream, here's a thought for you. Guys are human too (even if it never seems like it), and because of their mortality, they are unable to read your mind. 

So my first point: Guys aren't going to know you like them if you give them the cold shoulder.

I know it is a natural instinct to totally ignore the guy-don't. Fight the urge. The guy doesn't want a girl that gives him one smile, walks up to him and blurts, "I want to have your beautiful babieees!" That is too forward. Most guys aren't looking to get married tomorrow... at least the guys that you are looking for. So if you aren't supposed to be forward, and you aren't supposed to give him the cold shoulder, what do you do? 

This is where the "dating game" comes in. For the majority, you have to clue the guy in without being overbearing. This could be a quick glance, a lingering smile, a quick peck on the lips (just making sure you are still paying attention). Pretty much you want to show the guy that you don't see him like any other guy you know. If you treat him like everyone else, don't expect him to treat you any different. 

When it comes down to it, guys are complicated unless you break them down into simplistic terms- guys like the chase. We like to feel like we did something, accomplished the task, defeated the giant.... that being said, we want a giant we can accomplish. If you play too hard to get, we probably will give up. Don't make him travel the countryside looking for your foot to fit the slipper (at least not right now), throw him a bone or two, so he knows that he is doing well. A little encouragement never hurt anyone.
So go ahead, feel free to flirt a little with him, let him know that you are interested. Don't over-think it, just take a deep breath, and give him that smirk that you know works. 

Looking for the chase without the girl wanting to have my babies,

Tommy